This interviewee is a family friend with an impressive sense of self-awareness for someone barely in his 20s. I first interviewed him a couple years ago and decided to tweak his mind once more. Time has a funny way of either changing us or further affirming our beliefs. And while much may have changed for the Robert Downey Jr. look-a-like, the Omeed today is the same in character —just with some more scruff and far greater depth. I call this texture —the ability to digest the sensory details of life inwardly and express them outwardly. When you first meet him, you would notice his sense of humor and nonchalance. But this interview is yet another reminder that if you look beyond the first impression, you often find that people are more like puzzles than still images. Thank you to Omeed for giving Millennial Nomaad a glimpse into his thoughts yet again.
Name: Omeed Fatemi
The key to happiness is: Being in the moment
My kryptonite: A lack of stimulation, mental or surrounding atmosphere
In three words, I would describe myself as: A rogue bird
I dream of: Places I haven't been & things I haven't done
Success to me means: Looking back in the future and being content with the choices I have made. Whether or not those choices have gotten me to my goal is irrelevant; if I can live with my choices, then I am successful.
To be brilliant, is to be: Able to think of old ideas with a new perspective
Where do you think fear comes from? How does it affect you? How do you deal with fear?
Fear is a manifestation of our deepest insecurities. It comes from within the deepest recesses of our mind —the places that we rarely visit. It shapes our actions more than anything else in this world, and we see this every day. People ruin relationships because they are either afraid to love or afraid of being loved. People avoid opportunities or new situations because they are either afraid of trying or afraid of being rejected. The list goes on and on.
Turning fear into your friend is my opinion on how to deal with our fears. Rather than distracting yourself or avoiding our fears, confronting it and understanding where it comes from is the first step in overcoming it. This is because fear is not genetic; it stems from our experiences. Revisiting these experiences, no matter how painful, and uncovering how those experiences have affected us is the only way to have an understanding of where our fears manifest from. From these experiences we will find out why we act and talk a certain way and, therefore, how fear has shaped us. Whether or not we like these features is up to the us. But, being aware of where it comes from will help us lessen our fears or help us make changes.
This is all important because fear will never truly leave us. It will always be on the periphery, smiling. By understanding why it is there, we will make it so that it will never swallow us alive.
What does it mean to be aware? Do you think that most people are aware?
To be aware is to know ourself. This means to be aware of our actions and to be aware of where these actions emanate from.
Why do we go to the gym?
Is it because we want to improve ourselves, or is it because we feel small inside?
Why do we buy the clothes that we buy?
Is it because we like the clothes, or is it because it's a way to give ourselves a feeling of worth?
Why do we love certain individuals?
Is it because we truly love them or is it because we are trying to fill a hole within ourselves?
Sometimes the answers are innocuous, but sometimes the answers are the little lies we tell ourselves because the truth is too painful.
To be aware is to be honest with ourselves, because no one else can answer these questions for us. Often our images of ourselves are so vastly different from what we actually are. Very rarely do we get a glimpse of the real person behind the mirror. These moments mostly come in our weakest times when the mirror has been shattered. Instead of trying to glue the mirror back together, embracing who we really are instead of the glorified image is the only way to be aware. When we truly know ourselves and the motivations behind our actions, we will be more at peace.
What do you think is your key to love?
To me the key is to not grow complacent. Everyone has needs, whether it be friends, family, or a significant other. If those needs are not met by you they will be met by someone else. Or, the person will grow frustrated and in the end will harbor ill feelings for years of neglect.
Anyone can love for a minute, a day, a month, or a year. But somewhere down the road —when everything has been said, all the distractions have come to an end, and it is just you and them— you have to remember that the time you have spent guarantees nothing. The investments you have made do not obligate your other to stay.
You have to remind them that they are different from everyone else —that they are special to you and that you need them. You cannot believe that the time you put in or that the needs you once fulfilled many years ago will last a lifetime.
A rose does not live forever if it is only watered for a week.
What is your favorite quote and why?
“Everyone experiences what you appear to be, few experience what you really are.” -Niccolo Machiavelli
I love this quote on many levels. It brings up society's tendency to brand you in the image that they want to see in you. It brings up the sweetness in getting to know someone past a superficial level, since that happens so rarely in our lives. I especially love that Machiavelli chose the word "what" rather than "whom." This is because people can be many different things. Who they are is merely your perception of them, not what they actually are.
What is the best piece of advice you have received?
A friend once told me that the only person whom you will spend your entire life with is yourself and that you should always try to experience all that you can and improve upon yourself.
It is true. The only person who will be there with you throughout your life is you. By filling our lives with as many experiences as we can, constantly expanding our horizons & remaining interesting to ourselves we will never truly be alone. Growing stagnant in your growth is a travesty, because no one else can grow for you.
What does it mean to be a Millennial Nomaad?
To me it means to search. We are all closer now to our births than our deaths. All of us too young to have a clear picture of the future and we are all still growing and making our mistakes while trying to figure things out.